How To Get Back Your Love In Hindi - Life Incidence

Kaii alag-alag kaarano se jode alag ( Couple) ho gae. kabhee-kabhee garmee ke dinon mein aisa ho jaata hai, jab aisee baaten kah dee jaatee hain ki hamen baad mein pachhataana padata hai. kabhee-kabhee ek saathee sirph upekshit mahasoos karata hai, lekin doosare ne dhyaan nahin diya. yadi aap alag ho gae hain aur ek saath vaapas aana chaahate hain, to aap seekh sakate hain ki is beech kaise saamana karana hai aur apane rishte ko theek karane ke lie aavashyak parivartan karana hai.

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Part 1 Of 3


Break-up Se Kaise Nipatana Hai

1. ise kuchh samay den. aapako apane aatm-sammaan aur aatmavishvaas ko pratibimbit karane, sudhaarane ke lie samay chaahie, aur apane aap ko is baat kee adhik jaanakaaree den ki aap apane poorv ko vaapas kyon chaahate hain. aap jald hee kisee rishte mein vaapas nahin aana chaahate hain, ya aap shaayad vahee galatiyaan doharaenge.

aapako kitane samay tak aavashyakata hai? yah sambhavatah is baat par nirbhar karata hai ki aap pahale kitane samay se sambandh the, aur kis kaaran se brek-ap hua. yadi aapake paas abhee ek bada tark tha, to ise kam se kam 48 ghante aur sampark mein aane se kuchh hafte pahale den. shaant hone kee koshish karen taaki aap shaant aur tarkasangat baatacheet kar saken.

is dauraan phesabuk aur any soshal meediya se bachane kee pooree koshish karen.[1] yah pata lagaane ke lie ki ve kya kar rahe hain, ya niraashaajanak apadet likhane ke lie apane poorv ka lagaataar peechha karane se aapako kuchh haasil nahin hoga. aap keval khud ko badatar dikhaane aur badatar mahasoos karane ke lie khade hain. bas thodee der ke lie door raho.

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apanee bhaavanaon ko sansaadhit karane ke lie khud ko samay den. lav end rileshanaship saikolojist do. saara shevitz kahatee hain: “ham aksar isake maadhyam se bhaagane kee koshish karate hain, lekin ek dukhad prakriya hotee hai jo brekap mein hotee hai jo kisee ke nidhan ke samaan hotee hai. aapako isase gujarane ke lie samay chaahie, isalie koshish na karen ise drags ya alkohal, ya adhik khaane, taalane, ya turant kisee any rishte mein aane ke saath kavar karen.”


2. Kuchh aatmachintan karen.
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itana behatar aap samajhenge ki aapane apane saathee ke saath pahalee baar mein sambandh kyon tod diya, aapake lie ek saath vaapas aana utana hee aasaan hoga. aapane apane rishte mein kya galat kiya? brek-ap mein aapakee kya bhoomika thee? kya aapake saathee ne kaaran batae, ya aap kaheen se baahar nikal gae? samajhane kee koshish karen ki kya galat hua.
yadi aap damp ho gae hain, to yah sochane kee koshish karen ki aapake saathee ko kya pareshaan kar raha hai. aapake saathee ne kis baare mein shikaayat kee? aapake saathee ko kis baat ne paagal kar diya? yaad karane kee koshish karo.
yadi aap hee the jinhonne brekap kiya tha, to is baat par dhyaan kendrit karane kee koshish karen ki aap apane saathee ke baare mein un cheejon ko sveekaar karane ke lie kaise badal sakate hain, jisane aapako pahalee baar mein rishte ko khatm karane ke lie prerit kiya. kya in cheejon se aage badhana sambhav hoga?


3. Pahachaane ki aapako kya lagata hai ki rishte mein pramukh samasyaen kya theen.
ek baar jab aap brek-ap mein apanee bhoomika ke baare mein soch lete hain, to yah sochane kee koshish karen ki rishte mein aisee kaun see samasyaen ho sakatee hain jo aapake niyantran mein nahin hain. kabhee-kabhee, aap kisee se pyaar kar sakate hain, lekin paristhitiyaan kisee rishte ke lie kaam karana chunauteepoorn bana dengee. is prakaar kee samasyaon par bhee vichaar karana mahatvapoorn hai, yadi ve aapake rishte ke lie samasya hain:

  • ‌Kaam kee samasya
  • ‌Sthaan ya dooree kee samasya
  • ‌Bhaavanaatmak ya shaareerik samasyaen
  • ‌Yaun samasyaen


4. Iss dauraan khud par kaam karen.
kuchh aantarik aatmavishvaas khojane ke lie aapako jo karana hai vah karen. yadi aap aatmavishvaasee dikhate hain, to aap apane poorv ko yah aabhaas denge ki aap nishchit hain ki aap jaanate hain ki aap apane rishton aur apane jeevan se kya chaahate hain. aapaka vishvaas vyakt karega ki aap badalane aur ek behatar saathee banane kee apanee kshamata mein nishchit hain.

yadi aap apane brekap se dayaneey aur bhaag-daud vaale mahasoos kar rahe hain aur dekh rahe hain to aap sampark mein vaapas nahin aana chaahate hain. aapako kisee ko apane saath vaapas aane ke lie manaane kee koshish nahin karanee chaahie kyonki aap udaas hain, aapako unhen apane saath vaapas aane ke lie manaana chaahie kyonki aap ek vaanchhaneey saathee hain.

5.
Ab kuchh thos badalaav karen.
agar aapako pahalee baar samasya huee thee, to aapaka saathee aapake saath vaapas kyon aana chaahata hai? yadi aap yah dikhaane ke lie apane jeevan mein chhote-chhote badalaav kar sakate hain ki aap sakriy roop se khud ko ek alag vyakti bana rahe hain, to is baat kee bahut adhik sambhaavana hogee ki aapaka saathepake saath vaapas aane mein ruchi rakhega. yadi aapane un cheejon kee pahachaan kar lee hai jinhen aap jaanate hain ki aap ek behatar bhaageedaar banane ke lie apane baare mein badal sakate hain, to unhen abhee karen.

‌yadi aap svasth rahane ya kam paartee karane par kaam karana chaahate hain, to apane sigaret ke paiket ko phenk den aur jim kee sadasyata praapt karen. jab aap apane saathee ko aage dekhate hain, to aapako ye kaam pahale hee kar lene chaahie the, “kabhee-kabhee” karane ka vaada nahin kiya.

6.
jab aapako lage ki aap badal gae hain to sampark karen.
yadi, apanee samasyaon aur apane puraane rishte mein apanee bhoomika par vichaar karane ke baad, aapako lagata hai ki aap donon ko ek saath vaapas aane se phaayada hoga, to yah samay hai ki aap apane saathee se sampark karen aur baat karane ka prayaas karen. kol ya tekst karen aur yadi sambhav ho to vyaktigat roop se milane kee vyavastha karen.

‌yadi aap sunishchit nahin hain ki kol sveekaar kiya jaega ya nahin, to ek chhota patr, ee-mel, ya yah kahate hue not bhejen, “main aapake baare mein soch raha tha. vaastav mein baat karana chaahoonga. kya yah theek hoga yadi main kol karoon?”

‌yadi aapako aisa lagata hai ki aap vahee vyakti hain jise chhod diya gaya hai, to aapake rishte ko samaapt karane kee aavashyakata ho sakatee hai. kisee ke saath rishte mein vaapas aane kee koshish sirph isalie na karen kyonki aap dukhee hain ki yah khatm ho gaya hai. yadi yah behatar hone ka mauka nahin deta hai, to ise kuchh garima ke saath samaapt hone den.

‌agar aapaka paartanar baat nahin karana chaahata to aapaka rishta khatm ho gaya hai. bas, itana hee. aap kuchh maheenon tak prateeksha karane aur vaapas aane par vichaar kar sakate hain, lekin yah bahut kam sambhaavana hai ki yah aapako kaheen bhee le jaega. sanket len aur aage badhen.

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Part 2 Of 3


Baat kar rahe hain
1. Baat karane ke lie ek tatasth saarvajanik sthaan khojen.
kisee saarvajanik paark mein, ya kisee baaharee mol mein apanee baat ke lie milen, kaheen na kaheen aapako phansa hua ya asahaj mahasoos nahin karana padega, lekin kaheen na kaheen aap apanee nijata bhee rakh sakate hain aur bina sharmindagee ke baat kar sakate hain.

‌Dete jaisee kisee cheej par na jaen. raat ke khaane ya coffee ke lie na milen, ya apane puraane bedaroom mein baat karane kee koshish karen yadi aap ek saath rahate the. yah bahut saaree puraanee bhaavanaon ko phir se jagaega, donon achchhee aur buree, aur aapako ek saath apane rishte ke baare mein prabhaavee baatacheet nahin karane denge.

2.
Sarvottam lago.
sampark mein vaapas aane se pahale apanee upasthiti mein thoda sudhaar karane ka prayaas karen. aap kisee aise vyakti kee tarah dikhana chaahate hain, jisake saath aapaka poorv rahana chaahega. aise kapade pahanen jo aap par soot karen, achchhe baal katavaen aur khud ko apane sabase achchhe roop mein taiyaar karen. jab aap dobaara sampark karenge to isase aapake aatmavishvaas aur mood ko badhaane ka atirikt laabh hoga.

‌Kyoon ki aapane apane dekhane ke tareeke mein sudhaar kiya hai, isalie vipareet ling ke adhik log aapako notis karane lagenge. isee tarah, aapaka poorv aap mein badalaav dekhakar hairaan hoga aur yah jaanane ke lie utsuk hoga ki kya badalaav aaya hai.

3.
Maaphee tabhee maangen jab aapako vaastav mein khed ho.
yadi aapane dhokha dekar ya kuchh aur karake apane rishte ko kharaab kar diya hai, to aapake munh se pahala aur aakhiree shabd shaayad “aaee em soree” hona chaahie. rishte ko khatm karane mein aapane jo bhoomika nibhaee, usake lie apane pyaar ke lie maaphee maangen. yadi aap apane rishte kee viphalata ke lie maaphee maangane vaale pahale vyakti hain to aapaka pyaar aapake saath kaam karane ke lie aur adhik ichchhuk hoga.

‌apane aap ko sveekaar karen ki aapake paas jo dosh hain aur jo bhoomika aapako apane brekap mein nibhaanee thee. un samasyaon par dhyaan kendrit karen jinake kaaran aapake rishte mein giraavat aaee hai, aur is baare mein baat karen ki aapane kaise badalane ka phaisala kiya hai aur jab se aap ek saath the tab se badal gae hain.

‌yahaan tak ​​​​ki agar aapako lagata hai ki samasyaen aapake saathee kee galatee se adhik theen, to bahut saare “i” kathanon ke saath netrtv karana mahatvapoorn hai yadi aap vaastav mein apane rishte ko pataree par laane ke lie pratibaddh hain. cheejon ko pahale khud par kendrit rakhen.

4.
Sunana.
maaphee maangane ke baad, vaapas baitho aur chup raho. rikord par apanee baat rakhana mahatvapoorn hai, aur phir aapake lie yah bhee utana hee mahatvapoorn hai ki aap vaapas baithen aur sunen ki aapake saathee ko kya kahana hai. vaastav mein sunen aur yah samajhane kee koshish karen ki ve kaisa mahasoos kar rahe hain, na ki aapake saathee ke roop mein ya aapake “poorv” ke roop mein, balki kisee any vyakti ke roop mein, jisake saath aap rishte mein ho bhee sakate hain aur nahin bhee.

‌yahaan tak ​​​​ki agar aapako lagata hai ki aap jaanate hain ki ve kya kahane ja rahe hain, ya yadi aapako lagata hai ki ve nakaaraatmak hone ja rahe hain, to vaastav mein sunane kee koshish karen ki ve kya kah rahe hain. samajhane kee koshish karen. shaayad aapako ise sunane kee jaroorat hai.

‌vastunishth hone ka prayaas karen. kya is vyakti ko kuchh aisa chaahie jo aap unhen nahin de sakate? kya ve aapake saath khush rah paenge? agar javaab nahin hai, to ek saath vaapas na aaen.

5.
Ek saath thos yojanaen lekar aaen.
yadi aapaka rishta kuchh gambheer samasyaon ka saamana karata hai, to aapako unhen sudhaarane ke lie kuchh samajhaute ya pratibaddhataon ke saath aane kee jaroorat hai, aur aapako ise ek saath karane kee jaroorat hai. ek baar jab aap donon ne apanee vishisht samasyaon aur apane rishte ke baare mein apanee bhaavanaon ko aavaaj dee, to is baare mein baat karen ki aap aage badhane ke lie kya kar sakate hain.

‌eemaanadaar rahen aur yathaasambhav khule rahen. agar aap apane rishte mein kuchh badalana chaahate hain, to ab samay aa gaya hai ki aap ise aavaaj den. ek nae rishte ke lie aapakee kya aavashyakataen hain? ise anubandh par hastaakshar karane kee tarah samajhen.

‌agar kuchh badala nahin ja sakata hai, to isake baare mein eemaanadaar rahen. yadi aapaka apane saathee ke saath adhik gunavattaapoorn samay bitaane ka koee iraada nahin hai, to yah mat kahie ki aap karenge.

6.
Jaanie kab door jaana hai.
ek rishta us samay aur oorja ke laayak nahin hai jab koee vyakti nahin aana chaahata hai to use vaapas paane kee koshish karen. aap daravaaja khol sakate hain, lekin agar ve nahin chalana chaahate hain, to aap unhen nahin bana sakate hain aur na hee banaana chaahie. ek saral “aap jaanate hain, main aapako yaad karata hoon aur aapako vaapas chaahata hoon. yadi aap phir se prayaas karana chaahate hain to aap jaanate hain ki mujh tak kahaan pahunchana hai.” phir apane poorv ko akela chhod den. sampark na karen, sandesh na bhejen, phesabuk par sandesh na bhejen. bas chale jaeeye.

‌agar rishta khatm ho jaata hai, to aage badhen aur kaheen aur dekhen. koee aisa vyakti jo kuchh bhee nahin karata hai usake roop mein anaakarshak kuchh bhee nahin hai jo use chhod gaya hai usake lie pain daalata hai, yah lagabhag utana hee bura hai jitana ki un logon ke lie jo unake paas nahin hai.

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Part 3 Of 3
Isse antim banaana

1.
Apane saathee ke saath adhik prabhaavee dhang se sanvaad karen.
rishte ke har charan mein jodon ko prabhaavit karane vaalee kuchh sabase aam samasyaen sanchaar samasyaen hain. jin jodon kee shaadee ko 30 saal ho chuke hain, unamen aksar sanchaar kee samasya hotee hai. jode jo do saptaah se ek saath hain, nishchit roop se unake paas hain.

‌agar koee cheej aapako pareshaan karatee hai, to use turant uthaen. baat karane ke lie tab tak prateeksha na karen jab tak ki aap ubaal na len aur adhik gussa na karen. pata vaheen aur vaheen hai.

‌niyamit roop se “rishte kee sthiti” vaarta karen. apane rishte ke baare mein baat karane ke lie pareshaan hone kee zaroorat nahin hai agar yah ek niyamit cheej hai jo aap karate hain, aisa kuchh nahin jo aap keval tabhee karate hain jab aap mein se koee ek bahut naaraaj hota hai.

2.
Bhavishy kee or dekho, ateet ke baare mein mat socho.
sabhee rishton mein rod-bamps hote hain. yadi aap rishte ko phir se kaam karane kee koshish karane ke lie taiyaar hain, to bina naaraajagee ya gusse ke usamen vaapas jaana mahatvapoorn hai. aisa karane mein ek mahatvapoorn kadam yah hai ki kisee tark mein “ank praapt karane” ke prayaas mein, ya apane saathee ko bura mahasoos karaane ke prayaas mein ateet kee baaton ko saamane laana band kar den. yadi aapane ek saath vaapas aane ka phaisala kiya hai, to aage dekhana shuroo karen aur puraanee gandagee khoden.

‌cheejon ko niyamit roop se ek saath karane kee yojana banaen. apane rishte ke lie ek pratibaddhata banaane ke lie aavashyak hai ki aapake paas vishisht yojanaen hon aur un par tike rahen. ek niyamit tithi raat nirdhaarit karen, aur saath hee apanee saajhedaaree ke lie adhik mahatvapoorn lakshy nirdhaarit karen.

3.
Sashart cheejen karana band karo.
aapako apane saathee ke lie sirph isalie kuchh nahin karana chaahie kyonki aapako lagata hai ki agar aap aisa karate hain to ve aapakee peeth se utar jaenge, ya isalie ki aap ladaee se bachana chaahate hain. cheejen karana seekhen kyonki isase aapaka paartanar khush hoga, jisase aap khush honge. jitana adhik aap vaastavik daya aur karuna ke sthaan se kaary kar sakate hain, aapaka rishta utana hee majaboot hoga.

4.
Achchha bano, de, aur khel. rishte aur seks therepist dain saivej ne “jeejeejee” vaakyaansh ko rishton mein sangharsh kar rahe logon ke lie ek saamaany salaah ke roop mein gadha. isaka matalab hai ki jab aapake saathee kee baat aatee hai to aapako har cheej mein “achchha, dene vaala aur khel” hona chaahie.

‌achchha hone ka matalab hai ki aapake dil mein apane saathee kee sabase achchhee dilachaspee hai. aap apane pyaar se sahee karana chaahate hain.

‌dene ka matalab hai ki aap apane saathee kee khushee ke lie tyaag karane ko taiyaar hain, basharte ve aapake lie balidaan karane ko taiyaar hon.

‌khel hone ka matalab hai apane saathee ke saath cheejon ke lie taiyaar rahana. yahaan tak ​​​​ki agar aap raakshas moovee mairaathan ke bahut bade prashansak nahin hain, agar yah aapake saathee ka pasandeeda hai, to ise samay-samay par ek saath apane samajhaute ke hisse ke roop mein den.

5.
apane rishte ko pahale se jyaada samarpit karen.
rishte 50/50 sauda nahin hain. ve kabhee nahin hain. pratyek vyakti ko rishte mein 100% yogadaan karane kee aavashyakata hotee hai. pratyek ko rishte ko 100% dena chaahie. aap jo de rahe hain aur rishte mein daal rahe hain us par adhik dhyaan kendrit karane ka prayaas karen, na ki aap isase kya praapt kar rahe hain. rishta ek saajhedaaree hai jise aapako poshit karana chaahie, na ki aisa kuchh jo aasaanee se ho jaata hai jabaki any log prayaas karate hain.

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